When I spoke to him again about it, he did apologise and said he won’t do it again but he then came out with a load of stuff about how unhappy he was in the marriage, that we never spend time together (which is true), but I don’t think it is fair for him to blame me. I feel a bit betrayed and worry about whether I can trust him.
It wouldn’t have been as bad if he was just accessing porn, as I know men do this, but the fact that he was talking to other people has really disgusted me. Up until this, I thought things were okay in our marriage, though of course we haven’t had much couple time with the demands of four children but this discovery has come as a bolt out of the blue. I still feel really unhappy about what he has done. When I challenged him, he was embarrassed and then defensive saying it was just harmless flirting and that he had not gone over any line. Recently, I discovered that my husband has been using adult chat rooms online and seems to have been communicating in sexually explicit ways with other people. ASK THE EXPERT: QI have been married 10 years and we have four children aged 9, 7, 6 and 4.
